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Should You Admit Your Involvement in an Affair

Should You Admit Your Involvement in an Affair?

Infidelity is happening more and more everyday, especially with technology and social networks connecting us with both new faces and old flames. And although you can’t stop your partner from straying, do you really want to know if they are? If you have ever caught your partner cheating, the first question that comes up is “Why didn’t you just tell me?” Well, clearly the person getting cheated on wants to know why they weren’t aware of the affair, but after they find out, one of two things happen, they either decide to stay or they leave, so what exactly are you supposed to do when you have been unfaithful yet still want the relationship? Do you tell them you have been cheating or just hope and pray they don’t find out?

Well, I took some time to think about this question, and thought I would discuss when honesty might not always be the best policy, despite what we have been taught.

Some people truly want to know if they have been cheated on in order for them to decide if they want to stay in the relationship or not. Other’s actually prefer not to know, as long as their partner is not being “disrespectful,” which in my opinion, says that if their partner is cheating, that they either hope the behavior will stop before they find out, or they rather not experience any emotional roller-coasters because they are content with the way things are going, and rather not deal with the changes that come after getting that kind of news. Either way, a decision has to be made, but how you handle it is truly up to you, and where you want your relationship to go.

If you made a mistake, but realize that you want your relationship to work and are willing to do whatever it takes, then admitting your affair is probably not the best route in the long run. If you’re partner has no reason to mistrust you, you may not want to add fuel to the fire, and create more tension and uphill battles for the two of you than you already have.

On the other hand, if you feel like your relationship is headed for the dumps, and have given up on trying to save it, admitting your affair is probably the best things you can do to give it a nudge in the right direction. Depending on how much your partner is willing to take, they may want to stick around despite you hurting them. On the other hand, if you know in your heart you are over this person, and being faithful is more difficult than it should be, it is best to let your partner know that you don’t want to continue to hurt them, and it is probably best to part ways.

Be aware that breaking trust and committing infidelity is a sure fire way to put a huge dent in all that you have worked for since day one, but once the relationship has taken a turn for the worst, sometimes it is impossible to get it back to the way it used to be. There are many instances where people have made it work after admitting to an affair, but most will admit that things just weren’t the same, and depending on their circumstances, sometimes it isn’t the love for their partner that made them stick it out.

So, before you find yourself in a situation that you may have to admit something as devastating as infidelity, take a moment and evaluate where you are in the relationship, and where you want to go. If you take the step to admit your wrongdoing, be prepared to either walk away, or admit that you need help in order to save your relationship. Because as you all know, “it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.”

Choose wisely in every decision you make, and you will spend more time enjoying life, instead of living in regret.

-And That’s The Bottom Line